Helping a Friend
Your friend is probably very scared about a possible pregnancy. It could be that she’s experiencing panic and insisting that abortion is her only choice. The first thing you should do is to encourage her to verify the pregnancy at your local pregnancy help center. She doesn’t need to make any decisions until she is sure that she is pregnant. Please consider coming with her for the visit. Pregnancy resource centers provide medical quality pregnancy tests are free. They won’t tell anyone of your visit to their center as your confidentiality is important. These centers are there to help you explore your options. Their assistance is caring, compassionate and free.
When clients have a positive pregnancy test, pregnancy centers take the time to provide them with detailed information about all her options – single parenting, marriage, adoption or abortion – and their extensive support services. Many women initially feel like they have no other choice but to abort their babies. With pregnancy center’s physical and emotional support services, many realize that they have the ability to consider other options like single parenting, get married or placing their baby for adoption.
If your friend is pregnant, please understand that her decision could impact you. If she is considering abortion, encourage her to take the time to investigate all her options. There is no reason to rush or panic. Abortion decisions are permanent and cannot be reverse.
Understand that many friends who accompanied women to abortion facilities and feel “responsible” for the abortion and many share they were traumatized by the experience afterwards. Abortion isn’t a safe and easy option for anyone involved. Accompanying her for an abortion may be something that wounds your heart in the future.
Many women who have had abortions share that they held deep anger against individuals who assisted with their abortions because “they didn’t stop them” from making a choice that they would later regret. This could be a moment in time that you remember for the rest of your life. Be a friend by providing her with the best support available through your local pregnancy center.
This could be a moment in time that you remember for the rest of your life. Be sure to allow those memories to be “comfortable” by providing her with the best support available through our center.
Help her to learn more about what a preborn child looks like: HERE
Regardless of your feelings about abortion, it’s best to offer your friend everything that can help her make an informed decision. If she is determined to abort, you won’t be any less of a friend if you don’t accompany her to the facility. Encourage her to visit her local pregnancy center and learn about all her options. In doing so you will be able to look back at this time and understand that you truly helped her in a time of need!
If you are the father of the baby, visit our For Men page for more specific information.
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Hello, I am Sydna Massé Founder and CEO of Ramah International and the author of Her Choice to Heal. I'd love to keep in touch and include you in our prayer chain as we continue to serve abortion's wounded and those considering abortion.
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